Hi! I’m Libby. I live in pretty much the middle of Kansas in pretty much the middle of the United States. I share a little apartment with my partner, Ryan, and our two pets. Fiona, an old lady rescue mutt and Kiki a dramatic and snobby Siamese cat.
I use she/ her pronouns and identify as a queer, happy fat. I’m a writer, an artist, a lover and a fighter. I created XOXO, Lib in the spring of 2015 and I’m also co-creator of &/Both, an art and literature magazine.
In this space we value honesty, mutual respect, the amplification and honor of marginalized voices, and joy. I’m going to talk primarily about life in a small town in the middle of Kansas: living in a fat body, being married and queer, reading books, and living in my full truth.
At the time of this writing, I’ve been seriously blogging for going on three years. When I first started, all the how-to-make-it-in-blogging information talked about the importance of having a niche. I couldn’t figure out what mine was and I was just going to be the blogger who talked about anything at all.
The one thing I knew I wasn’t going to talk about was being fat. I’d spent thirty years mastering the art of pretending that my bigger body didn’t affect me and didn’t make my life any different from that of my friends. In 2018, though, I came to a really important realization. Unless and until people start being exposed to the way that this world (both the physical and societal structures) isn’t built for a body like mine, no change could be made. I started talking about things lightly and I was amazed that not only were my friends and people who cared about me shocked to learn certain things, but they were eager to make changes in their own life to make space for different types of people. I was brought face to face with the fact that not only was I doing a disservice to myself by keeping my loved ones in the dark about my experience, but I was selling them short, too. My lack of honesty was keeping them from being able to be an ally and advocate for me and people like me.
So this space is for telling true stories and helping to make change. We’re world changers. I hope you’ll join me.