A Post About My Heart and Soul and Money

It’s important for me that you know that I never sit down here to write to you without doing some real work, first. This is a job. I feel like I’m working for you and I’m working for me and I’m doing what it takes to feed my soul. And when I’m feeding my soul… maybe my soul helps to feed you a little bit. That’s my goal. That’s what my intuition is telling me is happening.

Most of the time that work involves seeming like I’m doing nothing. If I come up with an idea and I’m still thinking about it the next day, it’s a contender for a blog post. If, after that next day, I’m still mentally discovering new things about that topic, I’ll sit down and write out a bit of a draft to see if I can actually take it anywhere.

That’s where I’m at right now. I have been thinking for the past week or so about telling you that I’m always giving you the soft parts of me even when it might not always seem like it.

Even when I’m just doing a roundup of the things that happened last month. Or when I’m posting a Meet Me Monday interview. Or when I’m writing a book review. I’ve never written to you without unzipping myself and laying a piece of myself out there for scrutiny. I do that on purpose.


So, the reason that I wanted to tell you about that is because I want to talk about something that people don’t talk about often: money and how I make it. I went and got some new blog sponsorship. If you look down at the side bar of my site, you’ll see some ads there. I try to make sure that I only team up with brands that I think you’ll actually resonate with, buy from or care about. I’m always looking for new companies and if you have some favorites that you want me to know about, let me know because I want to provide you with things you’ll actually use.

After I write out a draft, I’ll let it sit for a little bit. I’ll come back to it the next day or a few days later. I’ll either edit the crap out of it–carving away at it like a sculptor until I’m standing here completely in love with what has showed up… or I’ll feel like what I wrote, originally, is exactly what I want to say. And I’ll just hit publish and wait for the praise, and money to come rushing in to me (just kidding, that has never happened).

More often than not, I’ll see that there’s really nothing of much use here, today, and this won’t be published at all. But it wasn’t a waste because every minute spent working on this frees up space and air to create something that is waiting to get born. It’s all a part of the gestation process and I’m not mad at it. I trust the process. I’ve been doing this long enough to know what I need and what I’m capable of.

The thing is, though… I often wonder if anyone knows how hard I and others like me work and how much effort goes into this job. I’m not saying that because I feel like I’m not getting the recognition I deserve or anything. That’s not the point of this post at all. It’s just that sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know so just in case, here’s what goes into creating content. And not just here on the blog but on my Instagram, Facebook, and Facebook group, too. Everyone says that bloggers should have an email list with exclusive content just for list subscribers but I don’t know, man. I don’t know if I have the emotional energy to create another thing. And I’m not sure I’m even mastering what I’m doing as it is. Not only that but who in their right mind wants to sign up for another email list?

That’s why I have these ads along the side of my page. So that, by chance, you might want to go place an order from someone and then, six months later, I’ll get a deposit in my account which equals, usually, about 8% of whatever you spent on that other website. It’s a very round-about way of making any money but it’s what’s available.
The Amazon affiliate program is better because more people shop with Amazon and they pay out more often (once a month) but I feel icky putting Amazon links into my posts. I really don’t believe in Amazon but it feels like if I want to make any money (usually only enough to buy a latte while I’m working on a blog post at the coffee shop), this is the route that I have to take. And I want to get paid because if I don’t get paid, I’m going to have to go back to working for someone else. I’m nervous to do that, though, because history tells me that when I do that, I get sick and I don’t thrive and I never have the energy to create. I’m afraid that if I do that, I won’t be able to write or paint and it might kill me. I know that sounds dramatic and maybe it is. It probably is. So, anyway, what I’m saying is that I’ve got to get paid and the only way to get paid is by schlepping goods from companies that don’t hate the very most and feeling a little bit icky about it.

But, I kind of feel like, there’s got to be a better way. Right? Like, is it completely unreasonable to break the mold a little bit?

I have an idea. I have a few ideas, so hear me out. I decided, you know, what if instead of posting a bunch of links that I hope you might maybe buy from, I’ll just put a link up there on the right side of the screen (on a desktop, if you’re on a phone, it’ll be at the bottom of this post) where you can help me out if you want to and if you don’t, that’s okay. Don’t feel like you have to. I just wanted to be straight forward with you and allow you to make your support as easy as humanly possible. This isn’t me asking for money. This is me making it easier for you to support one of the artists that you believe in. And if there are other artists that you want to support, hey just ask them for their paypal information. I promise you, they’ll be delighted. Consider it like a tip jar of sorts. I got this idea from Staci Jackson at My Friend Staci. She has a tip link on her site as well.

Also, I have an online shop in the works. I’m going to be selling postcards and prints of some of my work. That’s coming in the next several weeks and I promise to keep you updated as that comes about.

Thanks for always being great and for hearing me out when I come to you to talk about stuff like money.

XOXO,
Lib

What I Love About Noonday + Giveaway!

I was introduced to Noonday Collection a few years ago and immediately fell in love with the company. Even I–I who hates direct sales parties, hosted my own Noonday brunch and invited my favorite local people to eat sticky buns and look through jewelry with me. That’s how much I love Noonday. It’s strong, you guys.
I’m even hosting one, now! But who has time for an in-person trunk show? It’s all online and if you want to shop through it, click here. That party will run through March 2 if you want a lil sumthin’ sumthin’ for you or a loved one.

So when Alana Murphy approached me and asked if I’d want to host a giveaway so that my readers could get their hands on a beautiful piece from the new Storyline Collection, I was immediately on board.

You know that in this family, we champion women and so does Noonday. When you shop through Noonday, you’re providing work and livable wages so that artists all over the world can raise their families and change their communities. Women are not only able to put food on the table but also employ others in their communities. Lives are changing is what I’m saying. It’s cool.

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Image Description: A selfie featuring Libby and her partner on vacation. Libby is wearing her favorite, gold, Noonday Collection necklace.

In addition to being a world-changing company, Noonday also just makes some very legit, beautiful jewelry and accessories. I don’t own that much jewelry but when I do wear it, I find myself reaching time and time again for my Noonday pieces. I have the Small Cow Horn Hoops (which go with exactly everything in my closet–even basic t-shirts) as well as the Edgewise earrings (which are so subtle and pretty). I also have a favorite necklace which I’m not finding on the website. This leads me to recognize that it’s been way too long and I need to place an order soon. I really, really want this Editor necklace and one day I’ll save up for a bag (having seen them in person, I promise you, they’re worth saving up for).

 

But wait–it gets cooler because for the Spring 2018 Collection (which launches today!), Noonday is teaming up with The Starfish Project. If you haven’t heard, The Starfish Project is an organization that exists to care for people who have been affected by Human Trafficking. They care for both the immediate need, by offering shelter and safety, and in the long-term by providing counseling as well as education and even employment.

By teaming up, together, Noonday Collection and The Starfish Project have created the Storyline Collection. The Spring 2018 Collection drops today! So head over to check it out. You’re going to need to do that anyway to enter the giveaway.

And if you want more than the Belonging Necklace we’re giving away, I’ve got a party open! You don’t even have to leave the house to participate Use this link to go through and place an order and you’ll be added to my trunk show (which is open until March 2, 2018).

OH YEAH! GIVEAWAY TIME!

To celebrate the launch of this new collab between Noonday and The Starfish Project,  Noonday Ambassador Alana Murphy is giving away one Belonging Necklace from the new Storyline Collection.

Use this link to get to the Raffelcopter where you’ll be directed to answer a question in order to enter the giveaway. There are options to get more entries. Those options involve visiting our Facebook pages (and while you’re there, give us a follow so you can learn about new exciting things happening in our spaces) but even if you don’t have Facebook, you can still enter the giveaway.
The giveaway will be open for one week and the winner will be contacted shortly after it closes.

Good luck! And have an incredible week.

XOXO, Lib (and Alana)

April Things

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I started Dia&Co this month! I got my first shipment, and did an unboxing on my Instagram stories (and if I do say so myself, you guys loved it). It was so fun and I had no idea that I liked being on camera that much. I’ll film all of my unboxings from now on just because it’s fun and because you guys seem to really love it, too.  I’m here to serve you.
Use my affiliate link and you might get a little something something for signing up (though I make no promises on that because I’m a little unclear on what your benefits would be–just keeping it real, you guys).

I picked up this book. I grabbed it from Bluebird Books in Hutchinson because I was looking for a spring-y memoir. And also because I am a huge sucker for those little book-review cards that they scatter around the store to tell you “someone who works here has read this and they love it”!
Also, reminder, the Virtual Book Club is reading A Tree Grows in Brooklyn! We’re spreading it out over two months, though, because we didn’t realize how long it is and how busy we all are.

I realize that Easter is over but check out Tieghan’s GORGEOUS Easter brunch menu. I love her site so much–she makes everything look easy and so, so drool-worthy.

Try Amazon Music Unlimited 30-Day Free Trial What are you listening to? I’m into this brand new Father John Misty album, Pure Comedy. Also I’m jamming on the new John Mayer album as I write this.

Rhubarb is in season! I’m making a batch of rhubarb liqueur right now. Just chop up a bunch of rhubarb, fill a large jar and then add 2 cups of powdered sugar and 500 ml cheap vodka. Keep it on the counter. Shake it every day for 4 weeks and then you’ve got yourself a delicious mixer. I thought about adding ginger in there with it but decided to keep it pure. I’m going to be adding it to ginger beer though, for sure. Maybe a rhubarb mule type situation? What would you do? I can’t wait to play around with it.
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Kalene did an incredible two-week series called Doers and Makers. My favorite part was all the writing she did and the way that she connected the work other people are doing to what’s going on in her own life. It was so personal and so exciting. She collected all of her writing and photos (and a write up about me, even!) in one place right here.
Also, earlier this week she did a huge giveaway that featured a painting done by yours truly. I’ve been getting a few commissions for paintings, lately, and it’s really exciting to me.

Fat Girl Flow is showing us that plus size people can rock miniskirts.

Tsh Oxenreider has a brand new book out (I loved Tales from a Blue Bike)

And finally: I’ve been trying to make sure that I’m advertising with more fair-trade and ethically practicing businesses. So take a look at my side bar and go check out some cool websites. I’m super pumped about GlobeIn. I think that it’s a great place for wedding gifts–since we’ve officially entered wedding season. Plus: a subscription service!

What’s new with you this month? I want to hear all about it. Do you have a bunch of weddings to attend this spring/ summer?

XOXO, Lib

Things I’ve written this month:
You Don’t Need More Balance in Your Life
Digging for Truth in Rubble
I’ve Found My Why

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Women Supporting Women on International Women’s Day

Today is International Women’s Day and I feel conflicted. I know that many out there are celebrating A Day Without a Woman by staying home from jobs and not engaging in paid or unpaid work. I think that’s awesome–we all need to resist in whatever way makes sense to us. And I know that those who strike, do so on behalf of those who can not and that’s the heart of Feminism anyway, isn’t it? So I’m grateful for those.

There are a lot of people who couldn’t contribute to this strike even if they really felt compelled to do it. There are soldiers out there who can’t take a day off. There are mothers out here who need to diaper and nurse their babies. My cost is so much lower–if I don’t engage in unpaid work, I’ll simply go to a restaurant for lunch. My laundry will not get folded for just one more day and there won’t be a blog post here to read. But if I don’t go to work, my bad-ass, lady boss will have to stay late. And sure she could just not go to work but then that’s a whole day  that her store will be closed and that just doesn’t seem realistic.

So because all of this was on my mind, and because I do want to take action to honor the women who came before me to give me the rights that I have, I want to talk to you about another option: support! What if we gave our money to some incredible Women Owned Businesses on this–International Women’s Day? Shall we?


For those of you who are local to the McPherson, Kansas area you have some great options!

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Obviously there’s Twice Told Tales, the only used bookstore in McPherson! I work there, so obviously it’s going to be the first shop I mention. I love the way that Jessica keeps the store super duper organized and she fights for the rights of women and girls as a part of her general, personal lifestyle.

Then go next door to the Main Street Deli and eat a delicious, messy, unladylike Reuben sandwich. Get the pie and don’t ever let the words “I’m gonna be bad” ever pass your lips.

Brooklyn and Co and The Cooks Nook are two stores that I love to go to when I want to just browse through some beautiful things. Any time I’m looking for a beautiful gift, these are the spots that I hit up first.

Then, get in the car and drive 10 minutes to Lindsborg where you can visit Connected Fair Trade and then go down the street and finish your day off with a delicious coffee at The White Peacock.

What I just described to you is, like, my ideal afternoon.


Do you live far away or can’t make it out, today? Let’s talk about some incredible online stores that are owned by women and doing good work.

Let’s start with Wildfang: This is where everyone’s getting those Wild Feminist t-shirts. This company is incredible because they focus on clothes that aren’t definitively “feminine” or “masculine”. They’re just great clothes that are awesome. Cool stuff for everyone! I especially adore this Spur T-Shirt Dress.
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Next up, Butter London. This company was started in 2005 by two cool ladies selling high quality, 3-Free nail lacquer. Today their shop sells all kinds of makeup and beauty products. Right now they’re having a really cool mystery sale where they’ll send you 6 full sized items for $35 (a $100 value).
March Mystery Gift! Purchase Your Mystery Gift ($100 value), Only $35 at butter LONDON! Shop Now!

Brit + Co was founded in  2011 and has become one of the largest digital media companies for women. In addition to helpful and insightful articles and products, Brit + Co offers online classes that will help you learn how to do basically anything that you want. Want to take up a watercolor hobby? Cool. Want to start brewing your own beer? Totally. Thinking about how to style your Instagram photos to get more engagement and drive traffic to your blog or website? Got you covered. Become an empowered, educated person!

Finally, let me tell you about Society Plus, a great company founded by plus sized women for plus sized women. Jessica Kane and Michelle Crawford, tried to get their youthful, colorful, fun clothes into department stores but were told that plus sized women wouldn’t buy them. They said that plus size women don’t value themselves so they won’t celebrate themselves in great, fun pieces like this. They were told that they should focus on baggy clothes in dark colors. But they didn’t back down–instead they started their own shop because they believe that fat women deserve to be honored and adorned. That’s why I believe in this company and why I give them my dollars. I also love that they include their model’s measurements and the sizes that they’re wearing so that I can decide if something will work well for me. I am looking for an affordable, maxi dress for my capsule wardrobe and this side-slit maxi is exactly what I’ve been searching for. Oh, did I mention the free shipping event they just happen to be having today?

Are there any great women-owned businesses that you want to plug? Leave them in the comments either here or on the Facebook page so that we can all learn about and support them!

Happy International Women’s Day everyone!

XOXO, Lib

It Sounds Terrifying and Awesome. Let’s Do It

Ever since the incredible Kalene of Blue Muse Photography asked me to be a part of this project, I knew I wanted to write about it.

Ever since I got the results back on the reader survey that I sent out into the internet, and I read about how many of you are challenged by your own sense of body image, I knew I wanted to write about it.

Ever since Saturday afternoon when Kat and I were driving home from this exciting, mind-shifting experience, I knew I wanted to write about it.

Ever since Kalene showed me these final (not-photoshopped) photos and I squealed over them, I knew I wanted to write about it.

Man, but what is there to say when I don’t have any words? Or, rather, I have so many words that I can’t form them into anything coherent? But I know I need to write about it so here we go, I’m going to just do it and allow the magic that happens when you trust the process take shape.

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