June Things

We lost Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain in the same week this month and there are a lot of thoughts about it. I was most struck by the way the media made it sound so sensational and exotic without any care for the safety of their readers. Kate Spade’s suicide: Another example of how the media fails people with mental health issues.

Anthony Bourdain and the Power of Telling the Truth. 

As long as we’re talking about hard, impossible things, I can’t even talk about the situation with the children and immigration and anything like that. I physically can not talk about it anymore. But I’ll tell you about Unlock Hope, a company I totally believe in. I’m ready to buy this shirt. Plus, $15 from each sale to do the RAICEStexas.org Family Reunification Bond Fund.

  • If you want to reach out to your US representatives about the shit going down at the border:
  • Go to http://callyourrep.co to find the contact info for your representatives.
  • Text RESIST to 50409 and Resistbot will guide your through contacting your representatives.
  • Sign up at https://5calls.org to stay in the know about issues that are important to you.
Image Description: a photo taken from above of a table scattered with papers, the paper on the top of the pile is an example of how to write a letter to elected officials. If you’re interested in knowing exactly what this paper says, leave me a comment and I’ll email it to you.

I loved, loved, loved this piece written by friend of the blog, Brooke: No, I Don’t Have a Boyfriend, and 12 More Interesting Questions You Can Ask Me Instead. BONUS: there’s even a section about how to be a good listener. I know it sounds basic but this is actually super duper brilliant and helpful for having all kinds of conversations.

We’re in the middle of summer (ish, not technically). We don’t have any big trips planned but we may do some impromptu quick trips for a weekend here or there. I like going to Airbnb to dream about trips we could take. If you’ve never used Airbnb before, you can use my referral code to get $40 off your first booking!! That’s no small amount of travel credit.

Anyway, here’s what I’m dreaming about:
This cozy lil A-Frame house in the Redwood Forest.
We’ve heard great things about this sweet, sweet place in Lawrence, Kansas.
This spot in Chicago is dreamy, dreamy, dreamy!! Oh man, I have a lot of internet friends in Chicago I could go visit…

My summertime skincare routine got a bit of a refresh! I got 3 packs of these Olay daily facials. They’re sooo handy and they do an amazing job. They’re also ideal for traveling since they’re a just-add-water kind of thing. I also bought this Mario Badescu botanical exfoliating scrub on impulse recently (an expensive impulse, I had buyer’s remorse the whole way home until I was able to try it and then my whole face felt brand new, so, worth it) and I’ve been using it in conjunction with their rose, aloe toner. Between these three things, I barely need any makeup at all. Still looking for a delicious moisturizer for oily skin though. [these are all affiliate links through Amazon]

And also, I restarted my Birchbox subscription for fun. If you want to sign up, do it through this link and I’ll get $5 credit in my account! And just remember, as practice, that if you’re going to sign up for a new service, send a quick feeler out to your friends to see if they have any referral links–help out your buddies!

Image description: Shake Of The Month from Bogey’s in Hutchinson, Kansas. A cup of ice cream with pink and white circus cookies and lots of colored sprinkles poking out of the top. Libby is holding this cup of ice cream in the car. You can see her blue fingernail polish. 

Seriously considering making something like this for framing my next collection of original paintings or prints. (Speaking of, my shop got a face lift and a whole bunch of new things added. Go take a look if you haven’t seen it yet.)

I’m in desperate need of a new wallet but I’m one of those people who are always looking for something perfect and never find it. But here are a few I’m considering [affiliate links]:
This one looks like it can hold so much without getting bulky and soooo many colors.
I like how I could pop my phone into this one and free up my hands a little bit more.
I really love the look of this color blocked one–and there’s room for loose change which the other ones don’t have.

Finally, I want to remind you about Dia and Co. I had trouble with my last box and it bugged me so much that I thought about cancelling all together. But listen to me! I emailed them and told them how bummed I was and their customer service was so cool with me. I was so impressed that I’m going to keep it up with Dia. Sign up for your own box/ help support a cool business that wants to serve you the very best they can by clicking here! And if you’re in the mood for athletic wear they have a whole box for that now, too! [affiliate link]

Other places I could be found on the internet this month:

On Fridays, I’ve been taking over the Fat Girl Flow Fam Instagram account. So on Fridays I get to hang out with a whole new community of babes who believe in body positivity, too!

What was your month like? Did you find any products or services that you fell in love with? Did you do anything you’re proud of? Did you listen to the new Beyonce album (it’s a Beyonce album, ok.)

October Things

If you only click on one link from this whole post, may it be this one. This video not only features some of the fiercest young girls I can imagine, but gives real statistics about threats facing girls in the world today. October 11 was International Day of the Girl. The #FreedomForGirls campaign is promoting the U.N.’s Global Goals, an ambitious set of objectives for what the world should look like by 2030.

I went to a transgender workshop in Hutchinson at the beginning of the month. It was such a special experience. We learned about a  lot of Trans 101 information as well as the political side of things but mostly I felt totally empowered by the way that everyone so fearlessly shared their story even though safety is a very real and genuine concern for Trans people in America. They didn’t hold back. They tell their stories. And they give me the power to know that telling my story is the right thing to do. When we liberate ourselves, it allows others to be free, too. 
I’m sure I’ll be chewing on and rediscovering the things I learned from that workshop for a long, long time.

Early in the month, Sydney Liann of The Daybook did a seven day Inside Out challenge where we learned about chakras and relating pain in the body to emotional pain that we’re holding. I’d even discovered some physical pain that is absolutely related to a heart-hurt that I experienced several weeks ago. The body always keeps score.



On the 16th, my BFF Jamie came with me to the (beautiful, gorgeous, magical) Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts to listen to Rupi Kaur read from her new book [affiliate], The Sun and Her Flowers. She was so beautiful and hilarious and the crowd was so, so fun! There were standing ovations, snapping, I fist-pumped… twice. It was a wonderful gift.


The weekend after Rupi, Ryan and I went to Lawrence to see Sherwood. It was such a fun show, I thought. Sherwood was my favorite band all through college and it just so happens that Ryan is long-term friends with Nate, who sings lead. So this show was for both of us for totally different reasons (it was such a happy coincidence that the show landed on my 34th birthday!). I loved hearing these songs that I really hadn’t listened to in such a long time. It made me miss my sister really, really badly because she was the one who introduced me to Sherwood in 2004.
More than anything, Lawrence, Kansas is the most beautiful town to visit in the fall. This town was made for autumns.


This month, I read Dark Matter by Blake Crouse (book review on that coming up later this week), We Are Okay by Nina LaCour and The Sun and Her Flowers by Rupi Kaur [all affiliate links].


We’ve made all the final edits and &/Both Magazine is being released November 15! We are so, so proud of it! Please, if you are interested in getting your hands on a copy, please, please preorder it here! We need you to preorder it so that we know how many people care about this project and also we need to know how many to print in the first place! ALSO–after the release date, the price will go up. So this is really the best possible way for you to get the best possible deal on it. THANK YOU!!

It is straight up Autumn outside which means that I am ready to make this Three Potato Soup. And maybe let’s follow it up with this Maple Glazed Apple Pull-Apart Bread, yeah? Come on over.

We finished Stranger Things 2 in two days because we wanted to stay ahead of the memes. Ohhhh it is so good.

This month was super busy but it was super fun. I was excited about all the trips I took and all the different places that I was featured on the internet!

Oh, and speaking of that! I hope you’re following me on Instagram because Luminance Skincare (follow that link and you can get a FREE sample kit which usually costs $20) asked me to do a takeover on their Instagram Stories next month! I love, love Luminance and you can trust my opinion because they’re not paying me to say this AT ALL. I just love them and I’m excited that they asked to include me in their rad social media outreach.

Other places on the internet where you can find my work:
The Lady Project blog ran my piece about seasonal depression and self-care.
Yes and Yes Blog, did an interview with me about re-evaluating one’s sexuality after marriage.

Anyway–I’d love for you to tell me one or two things that you loved about October!