TOO HOT (hot damn)!

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I interrupt your… whatever you’re doing to inform you that ModCloth is having an incredible sale right now. It is so great. Everything that’s currently on sale, will be an additional 40% off at checkout if you use offer code: TOOHOT through 7/22.

So what does that mean exactly? It means that it will be boot season before you know it and you’ll have gotten your new favorite pair for $17.99 while all the suckers will get stuck paying $49.99.

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The Honor and the Sacredness

“You’ve been married for over a year now! Time to have some kids!” “You’re not getting any younger!” “When are you going to start a family?” “Oh! You got a dog? That should tide you over until some kids come along.”

There have been a few times in my life when I knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, what I was supposed to do and what I wanted.
When I was deciding which college to attend, I prayed for certainty and I received an illogical, deep confidence that I was supposed to go to this specific college in this specific city at this specific time. And I did that and I came away from it with a degree that I have never used and a few friends that I would gladly spend dozens of thousands of dollars to meet again.
When my friend Ryan took a long lunch break and came to my house and told me he couldn’t wait one more minute—he had to tell me he loved me and asked me to be his partner in this life and I had so many questions and so many doubts and what-if’s swimming through my mind but my soul screamed louder inside of me, “This is something big for you. Take this and protect it!”
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Everything else—I’ve just been winging it. I’ve never felt called to anything in my life.

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What I’m Talking About When I Talk About White Privilege and #blacklivesmatter

When you’re reading about how to be a good writer, a lot of the good advice that I’ve heard and tried to take on is the idea that when I’m writing, I’m writing to people who are like me. What I mean by that is that I’m writing to the perspective that I know and understand. I’m writing, largely to women or to people who live in small towns or to people who grew up in a very religious culture or to people who are interested in feminism and shopping and self-care and the value of humanity. You don’t have to fit all of those categories to belong here. You don’t even have to fit into any of them to belong here. Everyone is welcome if everyone is willing to understand that their point of view might not always be reflected in my words. Because they’re my words.

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Stories Make Change: Update 2

**trigger warning: sexual assault**

I’m blown away by the response that I’ve already received regarding our Stories Make Change post, asking for stories. If you missed that post I really want to ask you to please go back and read it.

But for the TL;DR version:
I want to collect stories from women and men that share, from personal experience, what non-consent has looked like in their lives and the effect that remains. I want to post those stories (anonymously) to keep the conversation going and to change the general consensus of what sexual harm is.

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