I’m sitting here listening to the hold music at my doctor’s office on speaker phone while I drink a big cup of coffee and draw up a lazy grocery list for this weekend. I want to make sure we get a lot of fresh veggies in our systems so I’m thinking a big salad for lunch… grilled chicken and veggies for dinner, and I’m wondering if peaches will satisfy our after dinner sweet teeth or if we should just admit it and get some cookies. And when are we going to get some movement in? If we can’t go to the water park, maybe we can take a park-tour or walk up and down main street. Or maybe even both… My best friend is coming to spend the night and I want to make sure that I’m at my very best while she’s here.
This planning ahead is something pretty new for me. Sort of. I’ve always been the type who likes to know what to expect but this is different. I’ve learned, recently, that if I plan certain things ahead, I’m more in control—not in control of what happens but more in control of how I feel. I’ve started seriously planning my self-care. And it has made all the difference. I’m not going to say that I feel like a whole new person… but I can tell you that I feel more in control of myself, these days.
A lot of people ask me what I’m doing with my time these days and if we’re being honest, sometimes I wonder, myself. Here’s a look at a day in the life, sprinkled in with questions that a lot of you wrote in. Thanks to everyone who participated!!
On March 14 an essay was published on theodesseyonline.com by Amanda Sankey entitled “I Am Not a Feminist and That’s Okay.” I encourage you to go read it—not only because it will provide you with context for the conversation that I’m about to have but also because Amanda is a bright and talented writer and deserves to have her work seen. As a fellow writer and a Feminist, I work to encourage other women to do the work that they love and get credit for it. So go over there, click that link and give her some page views.
March comes in like a lion and goes out like a lamb, they say. But so far, not so lion-y. Which I’m fine with. The wind is outrageous but so far no storms. They’re on their way, though, and there’s nothing that I love the way that I love a Kansas storm. So that’s something to look forward to, for sure.
I’ve been so, so, so busy these past few weeks and I asked my dear friends Cammie and Katelin (whom you have met, before) to write something for me. And what they came up with is simple. But it is powerful.
We are two white feminists celebrating black history month by listening. We are the audience and want to allow people of color to teach us the impact of intersectionality in their lives. Let’s listen.
Thank you for bringing this to us, Cammie and Katelin. May we find more and more and more opportunities to listen to our sisters. I promise to provide more opportunities not just in the month of February but all year long.